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On
the Lighter Side of Parenting
Did I Say That?
by Michael Bach
As a parent raising two children I found myself teaching and coaching
them in many different activities. For my daughter, it was soccer. Mind
you, I never played the game, nor did I understand the game except that
it looked somewhat like hockey. But I began to play it and to coach both
her and my son. Now schooled in backyard soccer I knew everything a person
could know of the sport – yeah right! So I sent them off to the local soccer
club to join a team in their age group. They did very well over the years
and still Dad would say -- "you know you should have kicked the ball this
way", or something totally brilliant to cloud the moment -- remember, I
was schooled in it from my back yard.
Ah yes! Then there was my son and high school football. Now here is
something I know about. I consider myself well schooled in Sunday afternoon
NFL TV football. The ultimate arm chair quarterback. This will be a snap.
For four years the poor kid had to hear me yell from the sidelines -- "throw
the ball, catch the ball, hit the darn guy" -- and on it went.
Now my daughter is married and my son is 22 and has a new sport ---
motocross. Again, Dad says, "I know this sport, I dabbled in ice racing
and motocross as a kid myself." But now it is different. I'm no longer
this 16 year old kid. At forty-something motocross is, well, not wise.
So I went to the races and watched, and again would tell him how he should
be turning and getting on it in the straight-aways. Always a coach and
really not knowing anything, just being a Dad.
Then at the races one day he turned to me and said, "Dad why don't you
take my bike and go out there." It shut me up, but got me thinking. Thinking
about racing in the over-40 class. I now have my racing bike and after
26 years of being Dad - and 4 crashes later- I came home from a hard days
riding -- and of course I ride with my son -- I looked at my wife and said,
"I will never, ever tell him how to do something, or it would have been
easier if you did it this way, again."
I found that the tide had turned and we had come full circle. Now the
teacher is the student and this student will welcome helpful hints from
the master, my son. As for my daughter, I think I'll take her word for
it on child bearing. :o)
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